self-insight

What are your weak spots? How can you give them a bit of grace without letting them run the show?

You don’t have to love spreadsheets like I do to gather data, although you can. You can use a journal or spreadsheets or Notion or a collage. Anything you can think of.

How do you prefer to be communicated with?

The workplace is a collection of people with nervous systems. All of them are interacting all the time. Getting a handle on what other people feel like to us can help us manage our internal resources.

One of the mistakes we often make is imagining that we're all the same. We're not. We react to different things in a lot of different ways.

Getting clear about your core values makes a lot of things easier. It helps with both decision-making and accountability.

Routes of Safety are Trauma-Informed Love Languages developed by Toronto-based therapist Jake Ernst. The Routes represent buckets of certain kinds of experience. Knowing what works for us, and what doesn't, is essential. There is no hierarchy among the Routes of Safety.

Thinking about things in my life as a combination of skills, capacity, and desire has been immensely helpful. This framing comes from James-Oliva Chu Hillman and I adapted it for use in the workplace.

Capacity is the mental, emotional, and physical energy we have at any given moment. Capacity is finite and influenced by lots and lots of factors. Working within our capacity is one of the keys to being sustainably human at work.

The ability to name our needs is key to getting them met.