supporting you

Anti-Connection Behaviors are things that most of us struggle with. They keep us from connecting with other people. They make both accountability and feedback really hard for other people to give us.

Each of us has a legacy of repair. Was repair prioritized? Digging into it helps us know where we’re starting.

The Emoji Code is something you work out with the people you interact with a lot. Sometimes, we don't have the time or capacity to explain what's going on for us. But we can send up a signal. We use emojis all the time to try to be understood over text, but you can use them at work too.

Your Grace Go-Bag is a collection of things that can remind you of your own inherent worth. It’s for your darkest moments. When you need to remember that you are more than your latest mistakes. It can help you avoid a shame spiral.

How often can you notice what's happening for you and not judge it? How often are we trying to control everything all the time? Our feelings give us important information but we often try to shut them down. Think about clocking rather than controlling.

When we remember that capacity is finite, then the importance of your environment becomes clearer.

You’ve done the math around the people in your life and work. You should have an idea of who is on your team. Your team is waiting to support you. They are ideal people to get in a supportive loop.

Our brains want to stay on the track they already know. We do what is familiar. Doing something new takes work and effort. We have to prove to ourselves something different is possible. We can't tell our brains what to think but we can stack the deck in our favor.